Counter-attacking in response to complaint, as opposed to dealing with the complaint ("You think I don't treat you with respect? Well, *you* leave laundry on the floor!") Subject changing in response to complaint (Same example) Using labels as dismissals (Of course you don't understand; you're an Aspie. No, dammit, I don't understand because nobody has explained anything.) Labelling any disagreement as "a fight" Labelling all conflict as "*You* are trying to pick a fight." (IE, any disagreement is "Your Fault," for the horrible sin of Disagreeing With Me.)